As women, we largely do not talk about it despite almost a quarter of all pregnancies ending in miscarriage. So, why don’t we talk about it? Yes, it is painful, it is sad, it is a time where I was searching for meaning, for understanding and looking for “why”. Women feel shame, guilt, and sadness, however, one of the worst things about talking about it is the reaction of other people. For those trying to support and encourage a loved one going through this terrible time, I’ve listed some common responses that hurt more than they help.